The number one accessory a single girl can have in her life are good friends. Not just because they are the people who will be there for you to watch those tear-jerker chick flicks or tell you that it is perfectly acceptable to eat a pint of ice cream after a bad day, but because good friends always seem to want to take on the role of becoming your personal matchmaker.
Being one of the only single girls in my group of friends, I often get phone calls from friends gasping with news that they have found the boy of my dreams. They try to persuade me that he is everything that I look for in a guy — and, without my consent, arrange for us to date.
After several failed blind dates and several biographies of potential prince charmings, I have come to two conclusions: the first, my friends are horrible matchmakers; and the second, I need to re-evaluate what exactly it is I look for in a guy.
When someone asks you to tell them the qualities you look for in a potential person, you bust out your memorized list of character traits and qualities that make up the perfect robotic person that you dream about spending your time with. The truth is, this list may work against you.
Having a listed set of standards allows you to be picky and not settle. But it is important to realize, having long lists of what Mr. or Mrs. Perfect is like may limit your potential possibilities. When making your list, ask yourself one question: will you be willing to be the same thing to that person that you are talking about on your list?
When I am looking for a good laugh, I imagine what these so-called “dream guys” tell my good friends what they are looking for in a girl that make them think they are the perfect match for me.
Do these guys tell them they are looking for a girl who has a weird personality, who doesn’t match their clothes very well and is too busy for her own good?
Do they tell them they are looking for a girl who eats with her fingers, doesn’t say goodbye on the telephone and whose dream date is stargazing?
Because if their lists say all that, well, then they are truly the guy for me.
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